Frequently Asked Questions
I am trying to start a business/have a baby/find a job/make more money but somehow nothing I do seems to work. Why does life always feel like such a struggle?
Sometimes we get in our own way and we don’t even know it! We tell ourselves we want certain things, perhaps because we’ve been brought up in a society that expects us to want those things, but often we don’t actually want them. Most of the time, we are just looking for love and security.
It’s important to acknowledge our true feelings and desires.
As well as our real fears and inhibitions.
And beliefs about how life works.
Working with a healer as a coach can uncover some of these unconscious layers and shift our inner—and as a result, our outer—realities. Life is meant to be a magical flow of surprises and synchronicities. The only real challenge is facing ourselves as we really are and dissolving the illusion that we’re meant to do it all on our own.
I feel a lot of unmanageable rage and pain in my relationships—with my family, my partner, at work—and I am afraid I am my own worst enemy. I try to control myself but I am afraid one of these days I am just going to lose it. Can you help?
Many of our “unreasonable” emotions source from deep scars left over from past life trauma, generational miasmas, entity attachments, and other unseen phenomena that can neither be suppressed without consequences, nor can they be dealt with simply through talk therapy. True healing requires a deeper shift in consciousness that can only take place when these emotions are surfaced, transmuted and released.
This is precisely the kind of alchemical shift that can be facilitated by a shamanic practitioner or spiritual healer.
After numerous break ups and disappointments, I feel a lot of anxiety and fear when I meet someone new. I just can’t seem to relax, and I often find myself missing my ex(es). I think I am still hurting from past experiences and I self-sabotage myself a lot. On top of that, I feel really lonely and incomplete, and badly want to meet someone! Is this something you can help me with?
First of all, it is important to remember that these relationship woes should not be taken as evidence that there is something wrong with you! Significant relationships are no accident—they are the result of soul contracts made based on a much bigger picture. People may come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Every person you have dated had something to learn and something to teach you. Not being in a significant relationship at the moment may simply mean it is not relevant to your path at this time.
Nonetheless break ups can leave us hurting and haunted by remnants of what was and what might have been. And many patterns in our lives are karmic and keep recurring until we release ourselves from the chain of causation that can extend much further back, across lifetimes. Shamanic healing can deliver powerful soul medicine to dissolve these attachments and emotional blocks, shift stubborn patterns, and reconnect you to your power and wisdom.
Most importantly, however, being single certainly does not mean you should feel lonely and incomplete! Through a combination of coaching and healing work, we can work together to build purpose, meaning, fun, and fulfillment into your life, with or without a partner, so you can feel whole, complete and loved no matter what.
This sounds like exactly what I need and I want to work with you. But somehow life keeps getting in the way.
Believe it or not, this is extremely common! The more stubborn the block you’re intending to release, the bigger the subconscious resistance to letting it go. As our thoughts (conscious and unconscious) create our reality, so does this resistance create obstacles to taking the steps that will shift our consciousness.
This is also why working with another person who can hold space for healing and partner with you to double-down on your intention can help shift our consciousness in ways that would take years, or even lifetimes, for us to do on our own.
I’m a practitioner of yoga and meditation. Isn’t healing supposed to be an inside job?
Absolutely! But we don’t have to do it all entirely on our own!
We must participate in our own healing and awakening, but in the immortal words of Ram Dass, “We are all just walking each other home.”
Remember the parable of the people who couldn’t feed themselves because their elbows only bent the wrong way? The ones who were in hell were forever tortured by the amazing food they would never taste, but in heaven there was revelry because they were feeding each other!
We can do for each other so much more than we can do for ourselves.
The mind is very slippery.
Asking for help is a wise choice when the help is freely given. And the ability to receive freely brings joy to both the giver and the receiver. Together we can greatly accelerate our progress.
I’ve always been an overachiever but recently I find myself becoming tired for no reason, suffering from bodily aches and pains, and developing all sorts of allergies and sensitivities to food, people and noise. I feel so frustrated that I can’t do all the things I used to—can you help me?
In my life I’ve noticed that the people who have the hardest time slowing down—the over-givers and overachievers who never ask for help—are precisely the ones who end up in health, emotional, or financial situations where they have no choice but to slow down, rest, and ask for help. In fact, this was me in 2012.
If this is you, you are used to dealing with challenges head on, and will give your all to find a solution, and get your life back.
The irony here is this is the exact opposite of what the universe is trying to show you. It may seem crazy to you, but it’s actually okay to let go of the need to control every detail of your life. It is okay to ask for help and let yourself receive, let others show you they care, let the universe carry you for a while. It is okay to rest and flow and allow, to trust that even without your careful planning and calculated effort somehow work projects will get done, vacations will be fun, and other people will do what they need to do and learn what they need to learn in their own time.
It is in fact when we surrender and let go—when we stop trying—that the miracle occurs.
Take a deep exhale…
(And yes I can help you make peace with your situation and offer tools and techniques for managing fatigue, pain and sensitivity.)
What if I sign up for a session and it doesn’t work?
When we approach any spiritual practice with an “outcomes”-based intention, we are already in the wrong ballpark! Anything and everything we do where we seek the assistance of a higher power is subject to the knowledge and perspective of that power that far exceeds our own limited view of what is best for our souls and in alignment with our soul’s purpose for this lifetime.
The best we can do is to hand over the problem and request help, trusting in the best possible outcome, whatever that might be.
Something always happens. It just may not be what you were expecting.
I have cancer. Can you heal me?
Cancer, like many other chronic or terminal illnesses, is a difficult and painful journey that requires immense courage and even greater reserves of inner strength and faith. In spiritual circles, intense adversity is often referred to as the fast track to enlightenment. Only the bravest of souls choose such a path.
When we set the intention for healing, we will be asking for assistance that is the highest and the best for you. What that is, I do not know, and it may or may not have any visible outcome in the material sense. Perhaps you will get the physical healing you seek or perhaps you’ll get the strength and perspective to deal with what lies ahead. All we can do is pray for assistance and surrender our resistance to receiving it.
I would invite you to approach our healing session with peace in your heart—the peace of fullness, of joy, of love, of knowing you are that Oneness, you are not the body, you have so much help in the higher realms (if you would only open to receive it) and everything you have laid out in your path is purposeful and for your own awakening.
What is shamanic healing? How is it different from energy healing or Reiki?
While a shamanic healing session can include energy healing, the shamanic healer works with beings who are not limited by space or time and therefore operates on levels of being that goes far beyond simply encouraging the flow of prana or chi through the subtle energy channels. It can address on a deeper level the issues that are inhibiting the flow of that energy, help departed souls find their way, release entity attachments, perform surgery and repair on the subtle body, retrieve soul powers and gifts, reconnect you to your guides, integrate rejected aspects of the self, transmute past life samskaras, lift your spirits, provide encouragement and hope, deliver messages and guidance, etc. However, much like when you take your computer to the shop, in most cases, it is not necessary for you to know or understand exactly what the tech support did to fix it (which may not be fully within your grasp or mine), just that it is done.
Interestingly, Reiki in particular can itself be considered a form of shamanic healing, brought to us through Dr Mikao Usui who made contact with the Reiki energy after a 21-day vigil on a mountaintop. The connection with this energy is passed down through an unbroken lineage from master to student through special symbols and initiations.
In fact, pretty much all new age healers are “shamanic” in that they partner with the spiritual realms to channel healing frequencies, deliver messages, etc.
For more on this topic, check out my article on What is Shamanism?
What can I expect from a session?
Every session is uniquely tailored to what you need in the moment.
At the start of the session, we typically set an intention for what we are asking for help with, and then we open ourselves to receiving that help, whatever it may be. In this sense, our healing work can aptly be described as praying together.
During a session, depending on your sensitivity and the nature of the healing received, you may or may not feel something is happening. At times I may even channel healing frequencies while we are conversing. While my clients always report experiencing deep peace and relaxation during a remote healing—and many slip into a refreshing trance state during the session—there is really no guarantee that this is what you will experience as every person and situation is unique.
I’ve always been attracted to the occult and I am intensely curious about the things you are talking about. But I’ve only ever dipped my toes in the water. I’m afraid if I dive in I’ll be wasting my time, or losing my mind, and that it’s all made up.
Congratulations! You are ready to wake up!
Intense curiosity is a very good sign.
A healthy skepticism will serve you well on your journey. Just don’t let it overpower you from learning anything at all. Never take anyone else’s word for something, check in with your intuition, seek your own experiences, put things to the test.
Here are a few steps you can follow to cultivate the seeds of awakening.
- Commit to stilling the mind, speaking the truth, and opening your heart. Constantly ask: How would love see this situation? How can I be of help here?
- Intercept habitual and circular thoughts with mantras or affirmations. When distressed by your perceptions, ask, “Is this really true?” If you find yourself going over the same arguments over and over, without getting any closer to a conclusion, pause and remind yourself, “You are not going to think your way out of this.” Do not indulge in overthinking, self-pity or censure.
- Practice following the nudges from your intuition. Even if makes no sense, just do it. Practice this every day. Every hour, tune in to your intuition and ask: “What shall I do next?” Watch your life transform into deep flow as surprises and miracles become everyday occurrences.
- Challenge yourself to face your pains and your fears. Look them in the eye, allow them to unravel and uproot them at their source. Hold yourself in a bubble of love. Allow yourself to feel and to cry.
- Give up judgement: both of yourself and others. Be fully present in the moment, in all your interactions. Speak less, listen and observe more. Put love and respect first. Everyone has something to offer, a part to play, and struggles you don’t know.
- Monitor your progress. Keep a record of synchronicities, all the fear you have released, and all ways you have shifted and grown.
Collect the evidence diligently until you satisfy your mind.
Would you rather spend your life wading in shallow waters or do you want to swim in the deep ocean?