January 2025

If we don’t do hard things, if we shrink from the things that scare us or challenge us or feel uncomfortable, we stagnate in a comfort zone that ultimately robs us of our aliveness and joy.

But hard things are hard to do. They take us out of the joyful bubble of peace and security we might have created for ourselves. They are potentially world shattering, identity destroying risks that we must take in order to grow and find purpose. They have the potential to bring us to our knees, and they often make us want to burn it all down, or run away and never look back, or hide under the covers and never try again.

One of the most fearsome inner demons is imposter syndrome. Who am I to be doing this? What do I know anyway? Why did I ever think I could do better than everyone else who came before me? What if they figure out I’m no good?

It goes without saying: if we don’t try and fall and fail and try again, we will never become the person who we need to become in order to succeed. A certain amount of hubris is necessary to stake our claim and take our shot.

We have to be willing to give up our peace, our sparkle, our self assurance and accept that if we reach for something truly worth reaching for there will be days or even weeks when all we will be capable of doing is to curl up under a blanket, eat ice cream and not leave the house.

In spiritual circles, no one talks about how essential it is to our growth to eat ice cream!

Just kidding.

What I’m really saying is, if you’re going it alone and you don’t have a support system of friends or a partner who can cheer you up and cheer you on, then you’re just going to have to be kind to yourself. It’s not going to look pretty every day but that’s no reason to give up on your vision so quickly. Allow yourself your bad days. They eventually pass. Your strength will return. You will dance again.

The ONLY way to find aliveness in life is to keep trying for something.

You can do it!

I believe in you.

In the modern world we try too hard to understand the realm of the mysteries, as though they were something that could be bottled up and sold.

The ultimate initiation is that there is none.

Just you, yourself and your “I” on a journey that simply gets curiouser and curiouser.

If you take yourself too seriously, you’re lost.

But when you find yourself on your knees, that’s when you’ll be found.

Be simple.

This is the easiest way.

But as they often say in spiritual circles, the easy way is hard enough.

The question I ask myself is: how does one then co-create a business and a life with such an unreliable trickster as a partner?

And the answer comes that it is all accomplished in the dance of joys and sorrows, trials and errors, through the many hands of the goddess.

Be bold. Make your mistakes. That is fastest way to learn. The universe is not that delicate — it won’t break from your recklessness! Neither will you.

The more you try to be somebody the worse you’ll feel. Simply carry yourself from the inside, centered in your own power, in the grace of your being, fully present and unselfconscious. That is all it takes.

Be beautiful. Adorn yourself. How pretty you give yourself permission to be on the outside is a direct reflection of how pretty you feel on the inside. Allow yourself to be beautiful, inside and out.

Be ambitious. Dreams were made for chasing. Make them big. Make them worth chasing after. If you fail, fail gloriously reaching for the stars. You are never too old to concoct a new dream and chase after it.

Don’t linger too long over broken promises, hurts, and failures. Regardless of what you’ve heard, you don’t have to be fully healed to keep going, to be successful, to start over, or to be loved.

Healing takes as long as it takes. Don’t rush your grief. Savor it like the waterfall of blessed emotion that it is. Let it wash over you and cleanse you.

Always keep learning. There is always a new hobby, a new skill, a new language to learn. Take a dance class, a pottery class, an acting class. Engage your mind in something that keeps you curious, keeps you fascinated. But don’t get so lost in your mind you disconnect from your body.

Watch out for boredom. Actively be vigilant of when it sets in and do something about it. Brainstorm a 100 ideas and throw them all away and then come up with a 100 more until something inspires you. Then go do it.

The goddess lives within your own body, god is nearer to you than your breath. You didn’t come here to be disembodied and dissociated. Don’t get addicted to high places. Don’t fall in love with death. Keep your passion for life burning bright. It is a tremendous gift to be alive.

Don’t elevate neutrality for it can turn to apathy. Be emotional. Be angry. Be hurt. Stand up for yourself and for others. That’s how you know you still care. That’s a sign of life.

Don’t follow blindly the teachings of the past. They are no longer for you. The time for teachers is past. It is time to blaze your own trail, to offer your own gifts, and learn through your own undoing and becoming.

You have been well prepared for this journey.

Now — fly!

Month: January 2025

Doing hard things is hard

Let the mysteries remain mysterious